What Personal Example of Mine Inspired Perfectly Certain Results (PCR)? 

What Personal Example of Mine Inspired Perfectly Certain Results (PCR)?

It is the story of my wife.

Here’s the setting prior to meeting Joy. I had initially loved a girl for eight years in an unrequited love. Then, I mustered the courage to change my mind and decided to have a new relationship. About three months later, a lady showed up.

My first relationship was full of depressing problems to the point that I was suicidal in it. We called it off when we were not heading anywhere anymore. My second relationship was at a point where I felt extremely unimportant, unloved, and unwanted. I tried to quit it at first, but I had understood the law to a certain degree. I understood the law of identical harvest, that if I ended it without first changing the nature of my relationships, I’d just create another nightmare in the next. So, I stopped running away physically and concentrated on my mental transformation.

For a boy who grew up dreaming of happily married lovers, these experiences became intolerable, and I wanted a permanent solution. I turned to a lesson: Controlling My Inner Speech.

Every step of PCR was applied by me in their most basic forms from my understanding then. Remember, I was still in my second relationship. I did not try to quit it as much as it was clearly not leading anywhere anymore (that is, after I defined my goal specifically).

I decided on what I wanted to hear, who I wanted to hear it from, and it all would imply that I am actually happily married. Right now, it might seem like the easiest thing to ever happen to me, but back in those days, it felt impossible. There even seemed to be strongholds against any success with my relationship and marriage. I had church. I had society. I had family. I had finances. I had friends. I had all this noise from the outside that asked me to forget a happily married life and just break down. You know, I sometimes would cry with all the sadness. One of my sisters witnessed it and would be completely unhappy; but it was my life, and I had to do something about it.

Then, there was one day and one night. In the day, I began to put together the pieces of what are now becoming the lessons of Perfectly Certain Results. I then decided what I wanted with all the courage in my heart. I forgot the noise and concentrated on the fact that I wanted to live my whole life with the woman I call my wife, who loves me, finds me so important, and with whom I share total companionship.

Then, in that night, I constructed the right sentence, the one that I wanted to hear my wife saying. I wrote it down exactly because I wouldn’t give room for doublemindedness or changing it in the following days.

I then slept that night in a dreamy state of seeing a feminine form of my wife saying the words I wanted to hear to me both in the immediate place I was and, in the longest time, into the future.

The time I did this, my current relationship had got so difficult that my parents had begun to push for it to end for their own reasons. At a point, I was in a disagreement with my dad because of that relationship. But I did not stop what I started, and I did not ignore what I was busy imagining. Every night, I heard her. In the afternoon, I sought moments to simply lie in my bed and hear her speaking the words I wanted to hear. If I wasn’t taking a class or studying, I was reading the inner speech.

Finally, I decided to forget about finding someone and just go on living. I wanted to travel, and I went home to settle my disagreement with my dad. It was in the public cab home that I met Joy.

In the account Joy gave me, she came for a training in that area for the very first time. She lived in a different city. She schooled in a different city. This was the first time Joy had come to Ibadan for a national program. And more importantly, that was the first time she had come to this area of Ibadan. All the while, I had no thoughts of a relationship with her. We just talked about her time in Ibadan so far, and I offered to pay her transport fare and took her number. These were things I did normally. I only recently stopped taking contacts of new people until they asked, and even earlier today, I paid for a man’s purchase of some fruits just casually. So, they weren’t more than gestures natural to me.

Then, to my surprise, the lady I had the second relationship with called it off the very next day. She asked us to meet and told me it was over definitely and completely. That surprised me, but I accepted it. Even that moment, I only inwardly ever heard my inner speech of being happily married.

I was not meant to meet Joy again because I was meant to travel on the day when the lady broke up with me and to travel for a long time. But my money was unavailable – in the bank but I couldn’t use it for the whole weekend. Daddy’s birthday was on the Sunday. So, I stayed back to give him a birthday gift on Monday. He wasn’t available until Tuesday. I was returning from presenting him when I oddly called Joy and asked her to hang out for lunchtime. As she approached, my eyes opened. I knew in my heart instantly that she’s my wife.

The rest just kept happening like this. It was a perfectly certain result.

I now have an objective; it is my city-state. I want to make certain it happens. Thus, I brought back the exact steps by which I met Joy, married Joy, and have a loving family with my wife today to apply to that goal of my city-state.

Perfectly Certain Results is actually an expansion of the steps that brought my wife to me, this in the manner that is clear and robust enough to raise my mind to the results of making a whole city-state in the shortest period.